Have you been struggling with saving your marriage and ending your frustrations and sadness? Obviously, you have heard that over half the marriages fail but I’m glad that you have chosen to fight for your marriage and I would like to help you. Marriage is difficult at times and it’s ok to get a little help along the way. I thought I could figure it out all by myself but as I look back I would not be married 28 years without a little help along the way.
Preserving your marriage requires work and sometimes the relationship goes through a more difficult period when one spouse has already concluded that the marriage is over. The good news is that it isn’t over until it’s over. Even when it’s over i.e., the divorce is finalized, you can still get back together and re-marry. It’s not the route that I would recommend but if that’s what it takes so-be-it.
Help In Saving Your Marriage
Get A Better Understanding Of Long Term Relationships
One of the biggest problems I see with couples today is that they don’t really understand that relationships take time to develop and grow. With the growth you will most likely experience growing pains and unfortunately many couples give up right in the midst of the growing. Once their expectations are no longer being met or exceeded they turn in their marriage key and checkout either mentally or physically or both.
It’s important for you and your spouse to be realist and expect that your marriage will have its ups and downs. It’s not unusual to fall in and out of love many times over the course of a lifelong commitment. Just because you don’t see eye to eye all of the time or perhaps not feel as attracted to each other as you were 3, 5 or 10 years ago is no reason to panic. The key is to understand that it’s just a part of growing together and you should take hope in knowing that we have all been through this. You can make it through this difficult stretch in your marriage.
Find Some Marriage Videos To Watch or Short Guides To Read Together
I’m going to venture a guess and say that one or both of you are hesitant about getting marriage counseling. I don’t blame you because it’s intimidating to most folks. Now, if you both are open to getting counseling by all means seek out a good counselor in your area and give it a try. However, if it’s not something you think you both will willingly participate in it might not help your marriage. However, there are some very useful programs on the market where all you have to do is pop in a DVD and listen. Generally, spouses who care the least bit about their marriage or spouse will agree to watch a help in marriage video.
There’s a pretty good home study course you can find here where if you aren’t completely satisfied you can get your money back. It’s not expensive and if it helps you in saving your marriage today I think it’s worth the couple of dollars it costs. You can take a look at the program here, Saving Your Marriage Today, to see if it’s the right one for your relationship.
Help In Saving Your Marriage By Changing How You Interact
One of the habits that we have as spouses is resorting to our familiar behaviors when we get frustrated and upset. When things are going our way or how we expect them to go all is fine. However, when things aren’t happening how we would like them to we start complaining, nitpicking, irritating and being sarcastic and annoying. Why we resort to making our partner feel as annoyed and irritated as we do is a mystery to me. Although I guess misery does loves company.
Why not strive to not complain about everything and blame each other for things that were beyond control or unintentional. Very often arguments and fights and tension are as a result of misunderstandings, or wrong assumptions. Work on taking the time to talk with each other and not at each other. Give each other the benefit of the doubt and I think you will be more successful in rescuing your marriage.
Please have faith that every marriage has the potential to be turned around and restored, your marriage included. Don’t let discouragement and frustration, lead you to lose hope and give up. Why not make your marriage the one you have been longing for.