Trying to save the marriage when all you do is fight, get agitated, cry and think about divorcing is challenging to say the least. Let’s be frank about it. Life sucks when your marriage is falling apart. Please don’t give up yet.
For many folks, it’s hard to continue to press on when there is little hope of restoring their marriage. That’s why the divorce rate continues to escalate.
You see, Marriage Problems + No Hope = Divorce
Well, we are glad that your marriage still has hope and you believe that you can save the marriage. You might be getting advice that contradicts keeping your marriage and I can understand why. No one wants to see you suffer with marital frustration and marital discourse day after day.
The good news is that there are some steps that you can take to fix your marriage after you agree to fight to save the marriage. I like to think of the following steps as mandatory if you want to save your marriage.
Save The Marriage Tips
The first thing you need to do is let go of the past mishaps and start anew. Please don’t misunderstand me when I say let go of the past. I’m not in any way asking you to pretend as though the problems you have been dealing with have disappeared. However, there comes a time in your marriage when if you are not careful you can get stuck in the past and never move forward to the future.
I want to encourage you to just be careful and watch what you say and do and make sure you don’t fall back on old habits. Don’t find fault with your spouse and immediately jump to the conclusion that your marriage has no chance of surviving. Leave a little room for error and judge not on what you see today but what you might have in the future.
The next suggestion that I would make to save the marriage is backing up your promises with action. It is very easy to make promises or commitments in the heat of the battle with your soul mate. This is a big deal when you are trying to put your marriage back on solid footing. The key is to build trust back into your marriage and other problems will begin to become easier to tackle.
You see, Trust + Hope = A New Beginning
Isn’t that what you want, a new beginning? Well, you can give your marriage a chance by not holding onto the past and making sure you do what you say you are going to do. Rebuild trust in your marriage and you will have an easier time saving it.
Finally, the third step you need to take after you agree to save the marriage is be clear on what you want and expect. This seems so simple but yet is at the heart of many marital problems.
Please don’t leave it to chance that your marriage survives. So many times couples make assumptions that in the end hurt their chances of getting back together.
You know what they say happens when you assume. So, make sure that you don’t try to guess what each other want or needs. Why not ask the extra question or make the need that you have clear.
What I see and hear about a lot is “If my spouse loved me he or she would know what I need or want”. If you aren’t careful your marriage will end in divorce and you will forever be wondering, what could have been.
In conclusion, you definitely have the potential to fix your broken marriage. Just seize the moment now and let go of the past, keep your newly made promises and be clear about your needs and desires. Follow these steps move closer towards marriage reconciliation.
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