Where do you start with recovering from a cheating husband? With so many decisions to make and so many mixed emotions it is difficult to focus and move forward when your husband cheats on you. I know that you are hurting and want to make the right decision. My first suggestion is that you don’t make a quick decision that you will later regret.
It is very easy to let your anger, embarrassment or fear, cloud your judgment. I’m sure that you feel betrayed and can’t see yourself ever forgiving him and definitely not being intimate with him again.
The good news is that you don’t have to forgive him today or tomorrow. You also don’t have to be intimate with him today or tomorrow. Please don’t worry about the future when you are dealing with a painful issue that needs to be overcome in time. This issue might seem as though it happened overnight but the healing and recovery process takes time, so don’t think it all has to be resolved in a week.
I must confess that your husband’s infidelity will probably be the most difficult marital problem that you will ever face. There are some questions that you will need answers to and you deserve to have them answered. However, I would suggest that you take some time and think about what has happened and why. The other thing that I would recommend is that you only ask questions that you feel will move you closer to understanding, healing and reconciliation.
The common questions that women want their cheating husband to answer are;
- Why did he cheat?
- Who is he having an affair with?
- How long has the infidelity been going on?
- Is it over?
- Does he love her?
- Is this the only cheating the husband has done?
- Who else knows about the affair?
You might have similar questions or a long list of things you want to know. The best thing to do is write them down and keep the list so you can refer back to it if necessary. This will give you a reference point to see if you are making progress toward your recovery.
The question you need to ask yourself is “what do I need to recover from”? The answer to this question is not as obvious as many think it is. Sure you need to recover from your husband’s adultery but there is more than just his cheating.
Your husband has deceived you and your trust has been broken. You need to recover your faith, trust and hope.
Your husband’s cheating might also might have taken some of your self esteem away and you need to recover that.
Your husband’s cheating most likely has taken away your joy and zest for life and you need to figure out how to get that back.
The key to recovering from a cheating husband is by knowing how to identify the important things that you need to happen in order for you to be healed. If you can put off making any rash decisions, then you will most likely begin to put your life back together.
Please remember that you are not alone and don’t have to walk this difficult path by yourself.
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