Coming to grips with my husband cheated on me is very hard and painful. The anger and resentment and unanswered questions are a lot to deal with, especially when you still love him. If you are still struggling with a husband who has cheated on you I hope this information is helpful for your relationship and marriage.
I find it strange at times to hear folks say if my husband or wife cheated on me I would do this or that. The reason why it is strange is because folks have no idea what it’s really like to be cheated on. If they did they wouldn’t even be joking about my husband or wife cheated on me.
Now that your husband has cheated on you do you have any thoughts yet on what you want to do? For a number of women they decide immediately that their marriage is over but I think this is to important to make a quick decision. In your case I hope you take the proper time to make the right decision. In the end you might decide to end your marriage but it should not be a choice you make based on the way you feel today.
My Husband Cheated On Me Tip #1
My first suggestion for dealing with your cheating husband is that make sure that you have a good support system to help you get through this difficult period. The burden that you are carrying shouldn’t be all on your shoulders. If you have a trustworthy family member or friend, why not confide in them and share what you are going through. It helps to just be able to have someone listen to you and give you objective advice. You don’t need someone to take your side or gang up on your cheating husband. You want someone who cares about you and your marriage. You need a stress relief outlet.
My Husband Cheated On Me Tip #2
Let your husband know where he stands. Your husband cheated on you and obviously he knows that he has screwed up. What he doesn’t know is if you are ending your marriage or perhaps willing to forgive him and try to work things out. My suggestion is that you be honest with him and tell him that you have no idea what the future holds for the two of you. Let your husband know that this is the most difficult thing you have had to deal with in your lifetime and the only thing that you can assure him is that you want to do what’s best for the both of you. What you don’t want to do is cut off all communications with him. If he means anything to you throw him a bone from time to time while you sort things out, especially if he is showing regret and remorse.
My Husband Cheated On Me Tip #3
I hope you don’t blame yourself for your husband cheating. It’s very easy to think that you could have been a better lover or supporter and it might have prevented your husband from cheating. The only one who truly could have prevented your husband from cheating is your husband. Regardless of what was going on in your marriage, cheating by your husband was not the solution to your problems. Your husband made a bad decision and now that he cheated, your marriage and life has been turned upside down. Although, part of the healing, recovery and renewing process is personal reflection, don’t take responsibility for his poor judgment.
“My husband cheated on me” are words that no wife ever wants to utter. Although many wives think about it and fear it, when it actually happens it can be devastating. If you aren’t careful the emotional and mental strain can take a toll on you. Please make sure that you are working through the issues in a practical and beneficial way so that at the end of the process you are healed, and able to forgive your husband for cheating. Then at that point you will know for sure if you can continue to be married to your unfaithful husband.