Marriage infidelity is ugly, disgusting and heartbreaking, among other things. It doesn’t take a counselor, therapist or psychiatrist to tell you how disruptive it is to a relationship and family. Having an affair is easy to do. There are plenty of single and married folks interested in committing adultery with you, if you are willing. In fact, some folks take great pleasure in breaking up a marriage or relationship.
There is nothing that compares to marriage infidelity. Sure financial struggles can put great strain on a marriage. It’s no fun arguing day in and day out over who spent what or on who wants to buy what. Children can also put stress on a marriage or relationship. However, dealing with infidelity is on an island by itself. There is so much pain and anger that sometimes speaking about it is almost impossible. Cheating robs the mind and soul of all it has.
If you are reading this article, I’m guessing that you are married or thinking about getting married. Please don’t let infidelity ruin your perspective on marriage or relationships. Infidelity doesn’t have to be a part of your future. If you have committed adultery or are worried about the love of your life cheating on you, I have noted 3 things that I believe you need to understand about infidelity.
1st Understanding Of Marriage Infidelity
Marriage infidelity can be avoided with just a little bit of common sense and perspective. I know some people who state they are not sure how they fell into an adulterous relationship. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out what’s going to happen if you have constant interaction with an attractive individual who makes you feel good.
It has something to do with physical attraction but it also has a lot to do with connecting on an emotional level.
A person knows when they begin to have feelings or shall I say lust for another person. If you are married you had those same feeling for your spouse at some point. Hopefully you still have some feelings for your spouse today. In any case, folks clearly know when they are experiencing inappropriate thoughts or feelings towards someone else.
The little bit of common sense part to avoid infidelity is shutting down those thoughts and feelings. Once you feel like you are connecting, bonding, feeling validated or fulfilled by someone other than your spouse, put the relationship on ice.
Once you stop interacting with the individual, other than a public setting, you will be less likely to travel down the road towards having an affair.
2nd Understanding Of Marriage Infidelity
You can’t stop your partner from cheating. I know this is a hard bit of information to digest. The good news is that you can make it hard for your partner to cheat. You just can’t stop them. There are many happily married folks who find themselves entangled in an affair. They have what many couples would trade for in a heartbeat. They have all the material comforts of life such as a great home, children, top notch cars and annual vacations. So why cheat?
Why does a successful, high paid wall street broker risk cheating? One reason is greed. The second reason is they think they can get away with it.
If your spouse wants to cheat and thinks he or she can get away with it they will try it. What you have to do is make it very hard for them to do so. Your spouse should feel as though the thrill of having an affair is small and shallow when compared to having a valuable partner such as yourself.
3rd Understanding Of Marriage Infidelity
You are capable of cheating. For more information on this understanding, see the 2nd item noted above.
Marriage infidelity is a serious problem and obstacle in many relationships. It’s hard to prevent and challenging to recover from. However, the surrender flag should never be waved. Dealing with infidelity is possible despite how you feel when it’s uncovered.
If you are trying to prevent infidelity, or recovering from it, see here for more tips; Dealing With Infidelity