I’m sure that you could write a book or at least a short story about the difficulties in your marriage. The only problem if you did so would be that it is probably already a well documented story. Although at times you probably feel as though your marriage problems are unique, they generally are not. Marriage is a challenge but that’s what makes it so great.
You probably have been just a wee bit confused why your relationship seems to be heading in the wrong direction. I bet you don’t think that you have changed and thus the marriage difficulties must be because your spouse has changed, right? What most couples realize once they get married is that marriage isn’t all fun and games. There will be difficulties and how you respond to them is the key.
So what’s the reason why your marriage is heading down the bumpy road? Could it be that the marriage problems you are dealing with have worn you down to the point that every problem seems like it’s going to breakup the relationship? Sometimes small problems get magnified when your marriage is going through difficult times.
One of the mistakes you need to avoid is involving family or friends when trying to resolve marriage difficulties. I have found that involving others will generally make matters worse. You could possibly have your relationship healed while your spouse has to manage an ongoing difficult relationship with family and friends.
It is very important in your marriage or relationship to not try to resolve difficulties when you are extremely angry. Very often couples say and do some mean and hurtful things during these times and it might take a long time to heal those open wounds. If you want to improve your marriage situation, try not to let your emotions get away from you and cause a bigger division between you and the love of your life.
When it comes to overcoming marriage difficulties you want to make sure that you balance the give and take in your relationship. You can’t be the one always giving and never receiving. Just the same you can’t be the one always getting your way. Please try to strike a balance in your relationship.
My advice is that you work together and tackle some of the easy problems in your marriage. Once you taste the joys of success in overcoming a marriage difficulty you will have confidence to find some more common ground.
Please don’t confuse marriage differences with marriage difficulties. The two are not the same and knowing the difference can mean a world of difference in your perspective and approach to resolving marriage problems.