Figuring out how to save your relationship, when years of frustration, resentment and bitterness are getting in the way, is difficult but not impossible. You might feel like your relationship is dying or already dead. However, the good news is that even a dead relationship can be saved if you figure out what changes to make.
Very often one person has already checked out mentally and spiritually of a dying relationship. The only thing that remains to be done is the official act of physically separating from his or her partner.
I know that it is hard, loving someone who isn’t loving you back. If you are not careful you can build up so much bitterness that you become your own obstacle to saving your relationship.
So how do you go about saving a broken relationship?
One of the first steps in fixing a broken relationship is stop adding to the brokenness and bitterness. It is very often the case that as frustrations build in a relationship, one person begins to become critical and revenge minded and the other person withdraws and retreats. The intentions on the surface seem ok but they really are harmful.
So what you end up with is one spouse creating confrontations and from their point of view, fighting to save the relationship. The other person feels under attack and does whatever it takes to avoid the confrontation and pain.
The best way to begin healing a broken relationship is to begin to curtail the behaviors that are tearing apart the bond between the two individuals. Unfortunately without some guidance and adjustment of attitudes, many couples won’t escape their relationship woes.
It is very clear to me that before you can fix a leaky pipe you have to turn off the water and give yourself a chance to weld or fix the hole in the pipe. The same holds true for your relationship. If you want any chance of fixing your relationship, you have to shut off the negative things that are bringing your relationship down the wrong path.
Another important step in figuring out how to save your relationship is finding help for some of the questions you struggle with. Relationships problems are difficult to share with others because its such a personal matter. Please keep in mind that you aren’t expected to figure it all out on your own. Many couples have been where you are and have made it through the rough times in their relationship. Why not use the experiences and mistakes of others to help you save your relationship?
What I think you should work on to help rescue your relationship is changing the atmosphere in your relationship and you don’t need your partner on-board with this to make a positive change. Start to think differently, act differently and interact with your partner differently, and watch what happens.
I’m confident that you can figure out how to save your relationship. Please continue to read the postings and articles on the site and I’m sure that you will find helpful tips and guidance to help you save your relationship.