Finding help in marriage regarding forgiving and loving your spouse after your relationship has been devastated by infidelity is difficult to consider. Once the affair is uncovered often times there is so much pain and anger present that forgiving and loving after adultery has occurred is the last thing on your mind. What is most desired is healing and understanding.
Although others you know may have been through similar circumstances, it’s really hard to understand exactly how you feel. They may say the understand, but it’s little comfort to your broken spirit and heart.
Well, as difficult as it is right now I hope you know you can get help in marriage and get to the place in your relationship where you can forgive your partner. The next thing I hope you will be able to do is love your partner again.
Forgiving and loving after infidelity is not easy but it is definitely possible. Will your relationship be different? Absolutely! Can it be as good or better? Yes it can!
The road to forgiving and loving after infidelity in most cases is a long one. One of the important things for you to do is take your time in dealing with the affair and make sure you are doing well.
Your mind and body has been under a lot of stress and it’s important that you take care of yourself. You need to be strong (physically and mentally) as you recover from the affair. You need to rebuild your self-esteem so that you can more easily forgive and love your unfaithful partner again.
Forgiving and loving your partner after infidelity will most likely require you to understand the dynamics of with whom and when and why the affair occurred. This will bring closure to your unanswered questions and allow you to forgive.
You may be struggling with even looking at your partner or being in the same room because of the infidelity. One thing that might be helpful is not focusing only on this period of your relationship. This will help in restoring your marriage.
If you can, reflect also on the good times you have had. More importantly, think past this troubling time and ponder the future. If the affair didn’t happen would you have been happy spending the rest of your life together. If you can, use these positive thoughts and visions to pull you through and help you begin forgiving and loving your partner again.
Forgiving and loving after infidelity will probably be one of the most difficult things you do in your life. However, if it’s any help to you please know that thousands if not millions of couples have been able to overcome this very difficult obstacle.
Sometimes it’s difficult to know what to do or say when your partner has blindsided you by having an affair, or where to turn to get help in marriage, especially when you have given 100% to make the relationship work.
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