Getting frustrated with him avoiding the “where is our relationship going talk and wish you could get him to commit? Getting him to commit is not only possible but it could be easier than you have made it. He probably can chat about pretty much anything except taking the next step. Your desire is to know that this is the man who you will spend the rest of your life with. Now it’s time to help him get serious about your future together.
Now, it’s a fine line that you need to walk when it comes to discussing your future together. If the approach is wrong or if he thinks he is being forced into making a decision he might get cold feet and start pulling back in the relationship. Then it will be harder to get him to commit. That’s not what we want to happen so let’s make sure that it doesn’t.
Please keep in mind that there is a huge difference between getting him to commit to you and getting him to commit to marriage. Obviously step one is more critical than step two. Just like a baby you need to crawl before you walk. So the first step is getting him to be loyal and committed to you and you alone. You should be the most important part of his life.
For some people its fear that keeps them from getting married and it’s also a lack of understanding of what getting married means. Unfortunately, society has put such a negative spin on marriage that for some guys there is no rush to commit. What you need to do is get your relationship to the point where he knows the real you and you know the real him. In this sense you both will know what kind of marriage you want and expect to have.
One of the things you want to do is get into his head and his heart and get a good understanding of his dreams and desires and what’s important to him. This will give you a good idea of where marriage and you fit into his priorities. Don’t panic or freak out if he doesn’t say that spending the rest of his life with you is most important. Most likely he won’t reveal his hand this way. It’s too scary for some guys.
Here is what you want to avoid when it comes to getting him to propose:
Don’t become emotionally unglued and let your frustrations change you. You don’t ever want to seem desperate and be perceived as a person whose sole mission in life is to get married. I know that’s not what you are doing but if you consistently break down or get angry because he hesitates when the commitment or marriage conversation comes up, you will seem controlling or fatally attracted. Neither one of these are appealing to men.
Don’t get others to try to get him to propose. If you can’t seem to move him to pop the big question, you shouldn’t ask others to drop hints for you. Marriage will require open communication and getting others to put pressure on him to get married could easily backfire and result in him backing away.
Here is what you want to do to help get him to propose:
Be the perfect girlfriend that he needs you to be. None of us are perfect but continue to show him how loving, supportive and encouraging you are. Be the better half and give him a glimpse of what life will be like when you are together forever.
You can change things so that he doesn’t fear getting married or have it be low on his priority list. You should be on the top of his list and he should not just be thinking about getting married but he should be worried about losing you forever and want to commit.
There are a number of steps that you can take to ensure that your relationship is headed in the right direction and get him to commit.
There is a program that I have researched called “Girl Gets Ring” which was created to help women find the right steps to take to help get their man to commit. It has a good source of advice that’s applicable to most relationships so there is likely some key tips that you can use immediately to change the chemistry of your relationship. Change the chemistry, change his heart, change his priority and give him what he wants, You!