Just the fact that you have questions like “Can I save my marriage” tells me that you are at a critical crossroad in your marriage. I’m very sorry that your relationship has had some down periods and you have concerns about your future together. However, I hope that the following information can move you closer to saving your marriage.
There are some important aspects to keeping your marriage together and often times they are overlooked because they are so simple. Unfortunately, we sometimes are looking for the complicated answer to save our marriage. I can assure you that resolving your marriage problems is not a complex process. It just takes us a while to figure out what works best for our marriage.
I’m sure that you know that no marriage is perfect so please don’t waste your time worrying about why your marriage isn’t perfect. One of the positive things you can do to make sure your marriage restoration is on track is spend more time working on the solutions and less time focusing on the issues.
Here is why I say that this is a key step and can help you save your marriage, in my humble opinion. You need to be hopeful that your marriage can be turned around. Without hope, your energy and focus will not be where they need to be to get our marriage back in order. As you know, frustration and stress has a way of sucking the life out of you, and can lead you to give up.
So, to make sure that you keep your focus, make a concerted effort, to limit the negative stuff going on in and around your marriage. For example;
- Don’t talk bad about your marriage and spouse to others
- Limit the time you spend dwelling on what’s wrong in your marriage
- Make sure you don’t allow others to give you bad advice about what you should do in your marriage situation (not all folks have your interest at heart)
How Can You Save Your Marriage?
If you want to save your marriage, you need to start making sure all of your efforts are purposeful and timely. I know keeping your marriage together is important to you and so putting in the work is not an issue for you. However, your spouse might not feel the same.
So, you need to keep in mind that for the time being, it might be you alone saving your marriage. Think of it like running a relay race. You start the process and lead the way. When your spouse sees that you are leading the way, you will see him or her coming along beside you.
However, it is important that you work on the right things. Don’t make the mistake of trying to fix your marriage problems in the wrong order. The order should be fixing your friendship, then your marriage. You need to rekindle your friendship and then your marriage. It is hard to fix your marriage when you don’t like the person that you are married to.
I hope that you truly believe that you can save your marriage. There is no reason why you can’t. Take the right measures at the right time and “Can I Save My Marriage”? will no longer be a question in your life.