Are you like most other couples who over time have determined that you and the love of your life have grown apart, and need help to save your marriage? Perhaps the things that used to seem cute and adorable now irritate the heck out of you?
What might help you to end the frustrations and disappointments in your marriage and head off that potential separation and divorce is getting rid of those dragons.
Dragons are those things in your marriage that get in the way of intimacy. They block or limit communication in your marriage and in many instances result in unresolved conflict and un-forgiveness.
You need to understand those things that are pushing up walls between you and conquer them before they are to numerous to overcome. If you can recognize them and make some subtle changes, your marriage can be transformed from ordinary to extraordinary.
Here are some dragons that left unresolved can kill your marriage;
- Lying –
- Unresolved conflict
- Poor self-esteem
- Critical Spirit
- Lack Of Trust
- Lack Of Communication
- Health Issues
- Wounded Feelings
- Inappropriate Behavior
- Critical Spirit
- Inconsiderate Behavior
- Parenting Issues
- Step Parenting Issues
Can you identify any of these dragons lurking around your house? If you can’t relate to any of them please look at number 3 on the list. Ouch! Sorry, but unless you and your spouse are both perfect then there must be something that sticks out on the list.
So what happens is that as the months and years go by, we tend to pick up new dragons along the way. For some couples the marriage issues or dragons become overbearing and the only perceived option is divorce. The good news is that it doesn’t take a lifetime to fix the problems in your marriage. It only takes a desiring heart and a little bit of know-how.
The obstacles in your marriage might not seem as big as some issues other folks are dealing with but even the little ones can trip you up. If you can begin to cut off the source that’s feeding the negativity in your marriage, you will see your marriage improve tremendously. There is no reason why you shouldn’t have a victorious marriage.
What many will tell you is that you have to work on your marriage. I have always thought that was a little useless advice.
I remember a few years back when my van would sometimes decide that it didn’t want to reverse. If I parked in the wrong parking spot I would have to push the van out far enough to go forward. Someone suggested that I might need to rebuild my transmission. My thought was, “thanks for telling me what I already know”. My second thought was, “I don’t have a clue how to fix it”.
If you want to work on your marriage and you can identify with some of the dragons above, why not simply start by trying to improve on one at a time?
There are many things on the list that you should strive to improve in yourself. Don’t simply use the list to point out your spouses’ flaws.
I have found that changing my ways and working on my flaws opened the door for improvement in all aspects of my marriage. Your marriage should be getting better and better. If it’s not, please focus on slaying one dragon at a time.
For more advice and help in fixing your marriage, read here; Saving Your Marriage Today.