Seeking to improve your marriage? The good news is that you are not alone in trying to make your marriage better. The bad news is that over 50 percent of the marriages today end in divorce.
I don’t care if you have big problems or little ones, marriage can seem difficult at times. One of the reasons why couples decide to end the marriage and seek a new start is because after years of being frustrated, hurt and lonely all hope is lost. Who would have thought that the very person you fell in love with now disgusts you?
So how do you undo the wrongs of the past? The answer is that you don’t. You don’t need to undo the past and you also need to learn how to let go. I see too many couples who insist on living in the past and this definitely hampers their ability to improve their marriage.
It is a shame when couples fight about the same things over and over again or perhaps continue to bring up things from the past to win an argument or fight. Instead of being passionate towards their partner their time and energy is spent seeking ways to make his or her life miserable.
2 Simple Tips To Help Improve Your Marriage
The first tip that I recommend is that you be honest with your spouse and ask his or her to forgive you. You might have tried in the past to let your spouse know how unhappy you are it’s time to open that door one more time. However, it’s important that you knock on the door in a gentle and loving manner.
Your spouse probably is tired, frustrated and unhappy just as you are. It’s not easy being honest with your spouse because being unhappy might be perceived as you wanting out of the marriage. So spouses become very hesitant when it comes to wrestling with marriage issues.
The key to tackling marriage issues is getting to the point in your relationship where you are able to let your guard down and have respectful, non finger pointing conversations. You must communicate without ending up angry and defensive. The only way to do this is to open up and express your fears, desires and wishes for your relationship to improve. The key is to be looking inward and not outward. Let me explain.
If you can get your spouse to forgive you for your shortcomings and ask him or her to help you be a better spouse, you will be surprised at how much progress can be made in improving your marriage.
The second tip that I would recommend to help restore your marriage is that you set one goal a day to do something positive for your marriage. I’m not talking about trying to set unrealistic goals to improve your marriage. It’s a simple question that you should ask yourself before you go to sleep each night. What did I do to help my marriage improve today?
For example, did you send a nice message, do something that your spouse was responsible for to save him or her time, put gas in your spouses car or perhaps allow your spouse some relaxing quiet time.
There is no reason why you can’t do something positive to help your marriage each and every day.
I hope that you realize just how easy it is to start making changes to improve your marriage. There are so many steps you can take to turn your defeated marriage into a victorious marriage. You can and I hope that you will save your marriage today.