I’m sorry if your cheating husband has thrown away your marriage and future by committing adultery. There is no simple way to explain why he cheated or know for sure if your husband will have another affair. There is however a need for you to try to move beyond his unfaithfulness. You have to move forward to relieve some of the stress that you are feeling today.
Let me be honest and say that with all my heart I believe your marriage can be restored. I know it’s hard to imagine such a thing happening when you are so angry, bitter and disappointed. Saving your marriage after cheating comes down to two basic principles.
- Learn to forgive and move forward.
- Decide upon discovering the cheating by your husband, to throw in the towel and move forward without him.
It’s not an easy choice one way or the other. There will be pain and suffering as you move forward and if you decide to stick it out, there will be quite a bit of pain.
Don’t let your cheating husband’s poor decision making ruin your life. I know that you are probably a little confused right now. Don’t be. Take your time and figure things out before you decide what to do.
How To Salvage Your Marriage
You might be struggling with your emotions concerning your marriage. One of the keys to restore your marriage is to be in control. If you are out of control (emotionally and physically) it will be hard to rebuild the trust.
I would recommend that you take some time and figure out what to do next. Unless you are in danger of being physically abused, why rush getting back together. Don’t make a rash decision that you will regret for the rest of your life. You will no doubt be tempted to throw your cheating husband out and you have every right to. However, how can you rebuild your marriage if your husband isn’t with you?
What I have found useful is when couples agree on the following. The husband agrees to end the affair and his wife agrees to not decide right away whether to forgive and move forward.
The first order of business is for the husband to stop cheating. This seems pretty straight forward but it’s not always that easy. Your husband could be emotionally attached to his lover or he could be too selfish to give her up. He must end the affair before your healing can begin.
The next order of business is for you to de-stress. You need to find an outlet to make sure that this unfortunate circumstance doesn’t lead to long-term health issues. I know of a 25 year old girl who was so stressed in her marriage that she had a serious stroke. She had no way to relieve stress. Don’t let the rage, bitterness and frustration ruin your health and life.
If you plan on saving your marriage, develop a plan to do it. Don’t let your emotional instability lead you through this painful experience.
Best wishes, in recovering from your cheating husband’s bad decision.