Cheating on your spouse is not thought of by most to be a good thing. Although for some it’s justified as spicing up the marriage. I bet you can guess which spouse views it as a good thing. If you have been thinking about cheating to increase your happiness, here are some things to consider.
Cheating On Your Spouse Is Selfish Not Helpful
I don’t care how you try to frame it, or spin it, cheating is not about doing what’s best for the marriage. It is about doing what feels good. There is one scenario where a spouse is not physically able to perform that some might try to justify cheating. I don’t mean to be judgmental but it’s still cheating. I fail to find any reason other than selfishness to describe what cheating on your spouse is.
Cheating On Your Spouse Will Hurt More Than Just Your Spouse
Very often cheaters no longer care about their spouse and thus having an affair seems fair. I mean, they are unhappy and unfulfilled and thus cheating will fill a void in their life. The sad part is that many other individuals suffer as a result of an affair. There are children, parents, in-laws and friends who will suffer along with the couple as they try to deal with infidelity.
Then there is often times the 3rd person in the relationship, the person participating in the affair. That individual sometimes is lied to and hurt when the affair doesn’t turn into a real relationship.
Myths About Cheating
- It’s ok as long as your spouse doesn’t find out
- Your marriage can’t survive infidelity
- You will never be trusted again if you cheat on your spouse
- Everyone will cheat at some point in the marriage
- Having an affair with a younger person will keep you young
- You will never be able to forgive a cheating spouse
- It’s impossible to control your emotions and feelings towards someone else
What you believe about cheating and the results of cheating will significantly impact your decision on whether to cheat or not. Perception can easily become reality so be careful what you believe regarding infidelity.
There is one thing I believe without a shadow of a doubt will happen during your marriage. You will be faced with temptation to cheat. It might be a little temptation or one that takes great restraint to resist. You will be tempted though. The question is, “how will you respond”?
I have never met a spouse or couple who proclaim how cheating saved their marriage or helped their marriage. I have known couples who fought tooth and nail in divorce court, with intentions on destroying their spouses’ life.
I do know children who were devastated as their parents split up because of a selfish affair.
Will Cheating On Your Spouse Help Your Marriage? What do you think?