How To Fix A Broken Relationship After Lying

Learning how to fix a broken relationship after lying or deceptive behavior has occurred is complicated if we want to be honest. Any relationship will struggle to survive if trust has been broken. It doesn’t matter if it’s infidelity, finances, relationships, or a hidden dependency. The good news is that relationships can be restored even if the lying has caused frustration and pain between two people who once had the utmost love and trust for each other.

If you want to get through a broken relationship after lying has occurred, it’s vital that you work together to find out what each person needs to grow closer together and regain the broken trust.

Learning How To Fix A Broken Relationship After Lying

Here are some key points you may need to discuss or agree upon in trying to erase the misleading or deceptive behavior.

  • Recognize that this is an anxious time and because of the lying it is necessary to offer reassurances until trust is restored.
  • Spend more time together, with each other, and with the family. This will help put your priorities and relationship back into balance.
  • Spend time connecting with each other and work on rebuilding your verbal, physical and sexual intimacy with words, actions and questions.
  • Resist the temptation to push for the relationship to heal faster. Recovering from a pattern of lying or deception takes time. If you pretend that the wounded heart has been repaired and it hasn’t your relationship will continue to struggle.
  • If the lying or deceptive behavior can be linked to a group of friends or a person, don’t contact or associate with your lover’s/drug using/drinking/gambling circle of friends or relatives.
  • Make your cell phone, bank statements, credit card statements and email accounts available to each other. Trust is more than words it’s actions.
  • Do not keep private accounts or secrets; share these no matter how much you are concerned about your partner’s response. Trust that you will be treated with respect.

Please keep in mind that it will take both of you to overcome lying or mistrust issues. The lying one must behave in such a way to earn the right to be trusted again. Once the behavior has changed, the one who has been lied to must begin to trust again.

Lying unfortunately is a part of life and relationships. Hopefully with a relationship that is improving instead of deteriorating, you can and should overcome trust issues. If you need additional insight into overcoming broken trust, please see here; Dealing With Broken Trust

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3 Tips To Make Your Valentines Day Special

This Valentines Day could be the turning point of your relationship. If it goes well, your relationship could go to the next level. If it goes poorly, you could be spending the next few months trying to figure out how to keep your relationship from ending.

There is a lot of pressure to make this lover’s day special. If you go to just about any store you’ll see hearts and flowers and lots of chocolate. It’s impossible to not feel the pressure to make it a joyous occasion. So how do you figure out how to make the day a special one? The following tips should get you started in the right direction.

Tip #1 To Make Your Valentines Day Special

Don’t get the same old thing that you got last year. It’s easy to settle on what you feel your partner or spouse likes. Resist the temptation to go with the easiest and safest gift. Your partner or spouse probably likes to be surprised every now and then. Why not get something that your partner would be surprised about? It doesn’t have to be costly, just thoughtful.

If you get stuck and resort to a gift you gave the last year or two, then deliver it in a different way. If it’s going out to dinner, make it a surprise dinner. Perhaps go out on the 13th instead of the 14th. If it’s flowers or a gift, maybe have it delivered. Anything that you can do to show that you have given some thought to it will be a plus.

Tip #2 To Make Your Valentines Day Special

Don’t get your partner something he or she won’t like. For example, if your partner thinks flowers are a waste of time and money, it makes no sense to buy flowers. The same is true about buying anything that you know will not be received well. If your partner gets something that is deemed a waste of money he/she may assume that you really don’t care. If you are getting a gift, don’t get the wrong one.

Tip #3 To Make Your Valentines Day Special

Make sure you don’t get into any big disagreements a few days before Valentines Day. You will not be able to turn on the romance on Valentines Day if you are still fighting the day before or the morning of. I’m not suggesting that you ignore stuff or even pretend that everything is great. I’m suggesting that you put aside the negative thoughts, words or behaviors and celebrate the relationship. You owe it to your partner to make this day special.

I know relationships have their ups and downs. I hope that on this Valentines Day your relationship is having an up moment and is special.

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Forgive Cheating Husband

Are you wondering if you can ever forgive your cheating husband? If you can’t forgive your cheating husband now don’t panic. No one really ever knows how long it will take to forgive infidelity. If you are recovering from a cheating partner don’t think it will be less painful because you aren’t married. Cheating hurts, whether it’s by your husband or your partner.

I want to forgive my husband for cheating but I can’t bring myself to do it. Does that sound like you? It’s hard to forgive and I can relate to that. I know the last thing on your mind is forgiving your husband for cheating and letting him feel like everything is ok. I know you may not feel like forgiving your husband but I strongly recommend that you do. Forgiving your husband will release him and also free you. Let me explain;

Forgiving your husband for cheating will not give him an excuse to keep cheating. If you never forgive your husband he may rationalize that since your marriage is in the dumps it’s ok for him to see others. It’s in your best interest to find a way to forgive him so he can’t say you pushed him into the arms of his lover. Yes, he made the mistake of cheating but in his selfish mind he will blame you for his actions.

Forgiving your husband will also give you peace and closure regarding the affair. You may never get back together with your husband but by forgiving him you are declaring your freedom. You can release the bitterness, anger and frustration you have been carrying around since finding out about the affair.

Now, keep in mind that forgiving your cheating husband does not mean that everything is ok now. There is a long road ahead and I’d like to say that it’s a bumpy road. However, if you are willing to work on your marriage, you can recover from your husband’s cheating.

I truly hope that you find a way to at least be patient and resilient enough to give yourself time and an opportunity to restore your relationship. Although dealing with infidelity is very difficult there is no reason to believe you can’t forgive and love again.

Finally, please take the necessary steps to heal your broken heart and learn how to forgive. If you can, your life will be better, whether you decide to stay married or leave. Again, for help in getting through this difficult experience, read more here; Infidelity In Marriage

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9 Tips For Improving Your Marriage Starting Today

Are you missing something in your marriage like friendship, intimacy or trust? For some couples it’s no longer a question of if they will get divorced but when. For other couples the marriage is neither good nor bad but rather indifferent. For the last group of individuals the marriage is over. Where does your marriage fall and could you use 9 tips for improving your marriage?

Listed below are the 9 tips you should consider to try to help your marriage improve:

1) Stop criticizing things your spouse says and does
2) Respect your spouse in public and in private
3) Don’t expect your spouse to fill your every need
4) Keep the past in the past and try to live today and for the future
5) Seek forgiveness from your spouse for things you have done wrong
6) Forgive your spouse for his or her wrong doings
7) Do something good (words or deeds) for your spouse at least once per day
8) Be attentive when interacting with your spouse (turn away from the phones, computers, tablets and other gadgets) and show a genuine interest toward your spouse
9) Listen

You may have noticed that not one of the tips noted have anything to do with your spouse making any changes. I offered no suggestions on how to get your spouse to do things your way. There are no insights on how to make your spouse stop doing things that annoy you. I rarely offer such advice because it’s generally a waste of time. Your spouse will change once you change the atmosphere of your marriage.

If you really want to improve your marriage, I believe you need to focus on the things that you can control. You can choose to continue to go to war each day with your spouse or you can change your strategy and offer kindness instead of bitterness. You can choose to be peaceful or angry over every little thing.

Improving your marriage is very possible. You might feel like giving up but please don’t. Your marriage is worth fighting for and you must give it your all. I know it’s hard but hang in there. You are climbing up the rough side of the mountain. It gets easier when you focus on the most important things in your marriage. For more information, please see here; Click Here!

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Marriage Help For Husbands

Finding marriage help for husbands is easy to find but often times difficult to get the husband to entertain the thought of getting help. If we are being honest I think most folks will agree that men just don’t do well with accepting help. You can’t make suggestions to a husband about how to get from point A to point B when you are traveling. You definitely can’t make any comments about your husband needing advice on how to be a better husband. Well, you can but unless your husband has been transformed, he won’t digest it very well.

So what kind of help is available for husbands?

For starters, I think a lot of men learn by observing others. If you are “The Husband” reading this article then I applaud you for taking steps to improve yourself and your marriage. I recommend finding some movies where couples act out real life issues in the movie so you can see how obstacles can be overcome in a marriage. I know it’s only a movie but I assure you that it’s based on some ones real life experience. A movie that comes to mind is Fireproof. Check it out and view the movie as a couple or if your wife won’t view it with you, check it out on your own.

There are also some men who learn from reading. I have nothing against reading books but I prefer listening to the book or download some podcasts about relationships. There are 1,000s of audio books/podcasts available for minimal costs on the internet. Seek and you shall find.

Another great way to improve your relationship with your wife is to be observant of your wife. Your wife is the best teacher you will ever have when it comes to improving your marriage. Pay close attention to her words, facial expressions and body movements. You will quickly learn what she wants and needs and equally important what she doesn’t like.

For marriage help for husbands to be successful, it must be received and applied as necessary. If pride and ego get in the way, help of any kind offered to husbands will be rejected. If you want to help your marriage succeed, help yourself to knowledge and insights that will help you grow.

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Married To A Stranger?

Remember when there was no caller ID and the phone would ring? Your heart would beat faster and faster as you anticipated getting that call from the love of your life. This was before cell phones were a necessity and home phones had caller ID. Now when you see the text message or phone number pop-up your stomach gets gassy instead of butterflies. Who is this person you are sharing the rest of your life with?

Do you ever feel like you are married to a stranger? You no longer like the same shows, you don’t want to hang out together and intimacy is rare and awkward?

If you feel this way your spouse probably feels the same way. You are now at a crossroad in your marriage. Which direction will you go?

Will you stay on the same path and continue to grow apart? It’s very easy to do so. Many couples stay married for many years after they have emotionally and physically checked out of the marriage. For convenience they stay with their spouse, who is now like a stranger. Unfortunately, this results in a very frustrating marriage.

Will you take steps now to work out your differences and get your marriage back on track? Sometimes all it takes is a refocusing on each other and before you know it your spouse is not that strange anymore. Give it a try and see if making your spouse and your marriage a priority makes things better in your relationship.

Will you give up now and throw in the towel? I hate this option so let’s not spend a lot of time on it.

I think it’s a lot easier to invest the time and effort it takes to correct a marriage that is out of balance then to throw it away and start over. The person you fell in love with and the person your spouse fell in love with is still there. It just takes a little time to chip away the complacency that has built up over the last few years.

Your brain needs to be reminded of how good things can be. You need to get back to the point where you can tolerate each other. Once you can tolerate each other you need to get to the point where you enjoy being together. After you enjoy being together you will get back to the point where you can’t wait to see the next message or get the next phone call.

It’s time to get rid of your stranger and get the love of your life back.

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Husband Cheating On You?

Your husband cheating on you might be a sign of more than just his selfish desire to try something different. If you are dealing with an unfaithful husband then you most likely are in a battle for your life. If your husband is cheating, you have some serious decisions you may have to make in the weeks and months ahead.

What your husband cheating on you doesn’t mean;

  • He no longer loves you
  • He is in love with someone else
  • You are no longer able to satisfy his needs
  • Your cheating husband wants a divorce
  • He will leave you for the person he is cheating with
  • You will never be able to love him the same way
  • He can never be trusted again

What your husband cheating on you does mean;

  • There is a problem in your relationship that must be resolved
  • It will take time to understand why he cheated
  • You will need to be prepared for a bumpy journey on your road to recovering from your husband’s cheating
  • The more you understand your husband’s unfaithfulness the more pain you might feel
  • Truly trusting him again will be something you decide to do and not a feeling you experience
  • You may need some help in dealing with your husband’s unfaithfulness

Your husband cheating on you doesn’t mean the end of your marriage. Once you find out about a spouse’s affair is the beginning of the healing process. Although it’s very painful to find out about a cheating husband’s affair, it’s better to know than to be in a relationship where your spouse is cheating and you don’t know about it.

One thing I can assure you of is that you are more able to deal with his affair than you know. You can make it through this painful experience if you take your time (not too much time) to figure out what to do and when to do it. Don’t make rash decisions that you will regret later.

I’m sorry that you have to deal with your husband cheating on you. However, you can get through this rough period in your life. For more help on recovering from your husband’s cheating, please see below;

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Cheating Husband Denies Affair

Is your cheating husband denying his affair adding insult to injury? Do you really want him to admit that he is cheating or are you still holding out hope that it’s not true? Perhaps you just need to know one way or the other. I know not knowing for sure can drive you crazy.

If your husband is cheating on you then I think you need to find out for sure. I’m not a big fan of waiting to see what happens. Of course, unless he is ready to walk away from your marriage, he won’t admit to being unfaithful. So what do you do now?

You have a few options you can exercise in moving forward and dealing with your potentially cheating husband.

Find Out For Sure

  • I would suggest you use all available resources to find out if he is cheating. Use the phone records, credit card bills, bank statements etc., to catch him red handed.
  • Check his car, show up at his job unannounced and chat with some of his friends to get a clue about his possible cheating.
  • If your husband is cheating and denying it, he will make a mistake. He can hide a one night stand but he can’t hide a meaningful relationship.

Don’t Give Him An Excuse

  • If your husband is cheating he will look for reasons to be absent. He will start arguments and disappear when the opportunity presents itself.
  • Don’t let him use an excuse that you aren’t spending intimate time with him in the bedroom. I know it might be hard to sleep with him when he might be cheating and denying it to your face. Try to work through it.
  • Try not to push him out the door. As difficult as it might be, I would recommend that you try to manage your emotions during this trying time. If you are angry, bitter all the time he will use that as an excuse for spending time away from home.

Put Some Boundaries In Place

  • If you don’t have any boundaries, please consider trying to put some in.
  • He shouldn’t be allowed to come and go when and where he pleases. He should be communicating with you, even if you are not getting along that great.

The fact that your cheating husband denies the affair is a sign that at least you are dealing with the issue. Ignoring it would be the worst thing that you could do.

Trying to catch your spouse cheating really is less about spying then it is about paying attention to how they are acting, where they are going and who they are communicating with. If you really are determined to catch a cheating husband, you can and you will.

A good way to deal with a marriage in distress is to remove the stress. A healthy marriage can help you avoid infidelity and if you are recovering from an affair, survive it.

If you need help building a better marriage, please read more here; Restoring Relationships.

Obviously dealing with infidelity in marriage will be one of the most difficult obstacles you will ever face. Please don’t think you have to walk this road alone. If you can use some advice on how to survive and affair, please see here; Cheating Husband

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Will My Husband Cheat Again?

I hope you are doing ok, even as you struggle with the constant thought of “Will my husband cheat again”? I know it’s on your mind day and night and unfortunately until you trust him again it will continue to eat at your heart. Your husband needs to give you a reason to believe that he will be faithful from now on. Your marriage will suffer if your cheating husband doesn’t work towards earning your trust and respect back.

Recovering from infidelity is very much possible. Despite what your heart feels at this time and what your mind is telling you, it is possible to be a loving couple again. Does that mean that he won’t cheat again? I wish the answer was no but I would be wrong to make you a promise that your husband may not keep. However, you can only do your best to help keep an open, honest and healthy marriage. You can’t do any more or any less.

Will My Husband Cheat Again?

In my humble opinion, your husband will cheat again if he doesn’t believe that what he did was wrong. As strange as it sounds, some cheating husbands feel justified when they cheat. If he felt neglected then in his mind he may be thinking that he deserves the attention that received from his mistress. I’m not saying that your husband had any right to cheat. I’m just saying that he may have reached the conclusion that it was ok to cheat.

Your husband may cheat again if he believes that there will be no consequences for his infidelity. If you simply forgive him for cheating but don’t require any behavioral changes on his part he might think that if he gets caught cheating again, you will forgive him again.

Your husband might cheat again if he feels emotionally attached to the person he cheated with. Lust is a powerful temptation and if your husband is emotionally and physically attracted to the other woman then he just might give in again to his feelings.

How Can I Stop My Husband From Cheating?

  • Make your relationship more appealing than his interest in others
  • Create some boundaries in your relationship to help him remain faithful
  • Find out why he cheated and try to put in place some tools in your marriage to prevent him from the temptation of cheating again
  • Hold him accountable for his actions and get to the point where he knows that you will be checking behind him to ensure that you don’t get hurt again

I know trying to answer the question about will my husband cheat again is a difficult one to answer. It’s dealing with the present pain and the potential future pain of him cheating again. No one deserves to have to deal with a cheating husband, especially one who cheats over and over again.

Obviously dealing with infidelity in marriage will be one of the most difficult obstacles you will ever face. Please don’t think you have to walk this road alone. If you can use some advice on how to survive and affair, please see here; Infidelity In Marriage

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3 Reasons Why Your Husband Is Avoiding You

I know it’s driving you crazy that you can’t figure out why your husband is avoiding you. Doesn’t it feel like you have some kind of contagious disease? He delays responding to text messages or doesn’t pick up your calls. He conveniently has to work and spends more time out of the house than he does in it. When he is home he really is only there physically and not emotionally. It’s eating at you I bet. What is he up to?

Here are a few reasons your husband might be avoiding you;

Your Husband Is Being Unfaithful

I understand this is no great revelation to you because it’s most likely what you suspect is going on. Maybe he is or maybe he isn’t cheating. If he is you need to find out for sure. If your husband isn’t cheating you need to get to the point where you are convinced that he isn’t. You will not have the best relationship possible if you don’t trust your husband.

If your husband is cheating, there is no reason why you should be able to catch him. It’s very difficult to cheat and get away with it if it’s more than a one night stand. Now of course you can ignore the signs but then you will always be wondering and never be trusting.

Tips to catch a cheat;

  • Check his phone log
  • Review his credit card and checking account for unusual charges, especially right after Valentines Day and Christmas
  • Look in his car (especially the glove department and the trunk). These are good places to toss receipts
  • Show up at his job for a surprise lunch date
  • If he often has to make runs to store and it takes longer than you think it should, offer to go with him. If he changes his mind about going, look out.

If you do a thorough investigation and you don’t turn up anything, perhaps your husband isn’t being unfaithful.

You Husband Is Avoiding Confrontations With You

Could it be that very often when the two of you get together you have conflict? Fighting with your spouse can be very tiring and draining. One way to avoid the conflict is to avoid the person.

You might not even realize that you and your husband are having conflicts. It doesn’t have to be a knock down, drag out fight to be a conflict. Conflict can be just taking the opposite side of every issue. If you, your husband or both of you have to always be right and always have the last word, it’s conflict.

Try to be mindful of your interactions with your husband and see if you are at peace or at odds around each other.

Your Husband Might Be Hiding Something

Sometimes husbands are guilty of doing something that goes against their spouses wishes and guilt has them walking on eggshells. It could be knowledge that they have that they don’t want to share. It could be related to health, finances or family. For whatever reason your husband might think that avoiding you will limit the likelihood of having to reveal or discuss the issue with you. In his mind, he might believe that he is protecting you by keeping you out of the loop.

I have spent quite a bit of time trying to figure out why very happy and thriving marriages fall apart so easily. I’m convinced that for the most part all of us want what we want and if we don’t get it we can be difficult to deal with, let alone live with. Although we become adults, we still act like little children at times.

Do you or your husband ever pout, shout or ignore the other person when things don’t go your way? Be honest now. You have on occasion, right?

Well, if you and your husband aren’t growing closer together as time passes by then you are growing apart. You need to fix this now and get your husband to stop avoiding you. If he is cheating, find out and work things out. If you have too much conflict, stop sweating the small stuff and love more than you fight. If your husband is hiding something, show him how much you love him and get him to trust you enough to share with you.

Get your husband to stop avoiding you by getting him to fall madly in-love with you again. You did it before and you can do it again.

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