Learning how to cope with your husband cheating on you will be one of the hardest things you will ever do in life. I know you are experiencing serious doubt that you will be able to cope with infidelity. No one who has survived an affair thought that they could. Your heart and mind are in a tug of war with divorce on one side and staying together on the other side. There is no simple answer to cope with a cheating spouse. However, there is one thing you can feel good about and it is that other women have figured out how to forgive a cheating husband and live in love, peace and harmony.
What’s the number one tip I could give you for learning how to cope with a cheating husband? It’s to be calculating in your decision making. Also, to be overly cautious and patient in the steps you take to mend your broken marriage back together, if that’s what you choose to do.
It’s hard to say whether a relationship will survive an affair. Your cheating husband may not even want to be married any longer. That’s a choice he has to make. By his cheating I know you believe he doesn’t want to be married. If truth be told I think that’s a good assumption. However, just because your husband has had a lapse of judgment it doesn’t mean that he is ready to throw in the towel. So what’s next?
With your husband having an affair the obvious first step to overcoming his cheating is him ending the affair. You can’t overcome an affair if it’s still going on. It has to end or your marriage has to end. They can’t co-exist. You don’t want to be in such an unhealthy and damaging relationship, trust me. So once the affair has ended the road to forgiveness and healing can begin.
Five Questions To Ask Your Cheating Husband
- Is the affair over?
- Are there any reasons for you to have further contact with this person (children, legal attachments etc)?
- Are you willing to work through the marital problems?
- Who else knows about the affair?
- Why did he have the affair?
You don’t have to use the above questions but you do need to come up with questions that will give you a sense that he is willing to save your marriage.
What you can’t do is go into a shell and fail to communicate your feelings and needs. That’s a recipe for unnecessary pain, frustration and an inevitable date in divorce court.
You must know what you need to cope with your husband’s affair. Your husband must know what he needs to do to earn back your trust and your heart.
Learning how to cope with your husband cheating on you is hard but not impossible. The key is to do the right things at the right time and you will give your marriage the best chance to survive your husband’s cheating.
For more helpful tips on overcoming a cheating husband, please see here; Dealing With Infidelity