Do you know what things in your marriage you have the ability to improve and the things you cannot improve? Would you admit that there are some things your spouse can change but you can’t? Do you accept that you are who you are and that you are responsible for defining who you are? Can you accept that change is inevitable in your life and in your marriage?
If you answered yes to one or all of these questions then you are off to the start of improving your marriage. If you are willing to accept, you have the ability to get through marital obstacles, even when it seems like you won’t be able to. For instance, if your spouse did something this morning that was uncalled for but in the scheme of things is not that big a deal, you could accept it and move on. The uncalled for action, can be viewed as, a temporary annoyance.
When you can accept things in life, including you and your spouse, you find a way to take control. When you are in control, it helps you to see how you can improve your marriage. When you learn to accept you will learn to discover you.
Individuality is personal, which philosophers over generalize this subject. Many people in the world believe that when we act the same way at all times, we have established our identity. Politically incorrect! We have emotions, thoughts, behaviors, actions, and have been plagued by a world of influences both good and bad. Each day we will feel something new, which causes our personality to reflect on these changes. Therefore, when you see someone laughing one minute and crying the next, you are seeing a shift in emotions, which is a normal pattern of identity for this person. Unless the persons eyes change, behaviors change dramatically, friends change regularly, etc, and you are seeing common behaviors.
We live in a world that desensitizes us. We are surrounding by billions of influences on television, in the media, on radio, in house-holds, government, schools and so forth. Each to their own, but everyone is judging someone at some time, which is something we have to accept. We cannot change these peoples behaviors and way of thinking, but we can change ours. This is a part of learning and accepting. The best way around the world is become your own influence and allow other influences to make someone else’s life miserable. Only rely on sources that prove truthful with their actions, behaviors and words. Positive reflections are the key to living happier and crucial to a happy and healthy marriage.
Once you learn to accept you will be eager to laugh. For instance, if your spouse makes you mad you will see the humor in his or her actions. You may see the humor in your actions if you make a mistake and feed into their stupidity.
Learning to accept does not mean becoming a door mat that your spouse walks all over. Accepting means that you have the right perspective on what’s important and your words and actions reflect this.
Once you start to see the humor in life, you will feel better inside. We are involved in a unruly world filled with greedy people, envious souls, lusty tigers, and so on. We have to learn how to work around these people, accept us and move on. Once you learn to change to better you, other people may follow. Good conduct has proven far more effective than words to encourage others to change.
Do you see where this is going? You have the power to accept you and the power to change you. You also have the power to accept your spouse, the good, the bad and the ugly. Once you get to this point in life, your married life will improve. Change yourself and your spouse just might do the same.
As you grow individually you will see your life and marriage improve.