I know it’s driving you crazy that you can’t figure out why your husband is avoiding you. Doesn’t it feel like you have some kind of contagious disease? He delays responding to text messages or doesn’t pick up your calls. He conveniently has to work and spends more time out of the house than he does in it. When he is home he really is only there physically and not emotionally. It’s eating at you I bet. What is he up to?
Here are a few reasons your husband might be avoiding you;
Your Husband Is Being Unfaithful
I understand this is no great revelation to you because it’s most likely what you suspect is going on. Maybe he is or maybe he isn’t cheating. If he is you need to find out for sure. If your husband isn’t cheating you need to get to the point where you are convinced that he isn’t. You will not have the best relationship possible if you don’t trust your husband.
If your husband is cheating, there is no reason why you should be able to catch him. It’s very difficult to cheat and get away with it if it’s more than a one night stand. Now of course you can ignore the signs but then you will always be wondering and never be trusting.
Tips to catch a cheat;
- Check his phone log
- Review his credit card and checking account for unusual charges, especially right after Valentines Day and Christmas
- Look in his car (especially the glove department and the trunk). These are good places to toss receipts
- Show up at his job for a surprise lunch date
- If he often has to make runs to store and it takes longer than you think it should, offer to go with him. If he changes his mind about going, look out.
If you do a thorough investigation and you don’t turn up anything, perhaps your husband isn’t being unfaithful.
You Husband Is Avoiding Confrontations With You
Could it be that very often when the two of you get together you have conflict? Fighting with your spouse can be very tiring and draining. One way to avoid the conflict is to avoid the person.
You might not even realize that you and your husband are having conflicts. It doesn’t have to be a knock down, drag out fight to be a conflict. Conflict can be just taking the opposite side of every issue. If you, your husband or both of you have to always be right and always have the last word, it’s conflict.
Try to be mindful of your interactions with your husband and see if you are at peace or at odds around each other.
Your Husband Might Be Hiding Something
Sometimes husbands are guilty of doing something that goes against their spouses wishes and guilt has them walking on eggshells. It could be knowledge that they have that they don’t want to share. It could be related to health, finances or family. For whatever reason your husband might think that avoiding you will limit the likelihood of having to reveal or discuss the issue with you. In his mind, he might believe that he is protecting you by keeping you out of the loop.
I have spent quite a bit of time trying to figure out why very happy and thriving marriages fall apart so easily. I’m convinced that for the most part all of us want what we want and if we don’t get it we can be difficult to deal with, let alone live with. Although we become adults, we still act like little children at times.
Do you or your husband ever pout, shout or ignore the other person when things don’t go your way? Be honest now. You have on occasion, right?
Well, if you and your husband aren’t growing closer together as time passes by then you are growing apart. You need to fix this now and get your husband to stop avoiding you. If he is cheating, find out and work things out. If you have too much conflict, stop sweating the small stuff and love more than you fight. If your husband is hiding something, show him how much you love him and get him to trust you enough to share with you.
Get your husband to stop avoiding you by getting him to fall madly in-love with you again. You did it before and you can do it again.