Learning how to fix a broken relationship after lying or deceptive behavior has occurred is complicated if we want to be honest. Any relationship will struggle to survive if trust has been broken. It doesn’t matter if it’s infidelity, finances, relationships, or a hidden dependency. The good news is that relationships can be restored even if the lying has caused frustration and pain between two people who once had the utmost love and trust for each other.
If you want to get through a broken relationship after lying has occurred, it’s vital that you work together to find out what each person needs to grow closer together and regain the broken trust.
Learning How To Fix A Broken Relationship After Lying
Here are some key points you may need to discuss or agree upon in trying to erase the misleading or deceptive behavior.
- Recognize that this is an anxious time and because of the lying it is necessary to offer reassurances until trust is restored.
- Spend more time together, with each other, and with the family. This will help put your priorities and relationship back into balance.
- Spend time connecting with each other and work on rebuilding your verbal, physical and sexual intimacy with words, actions and questions.
- Resist the temptation to push for the relationship to heal faster. Recovering from a pattern of lying or deception takes time. If you pretend that the wounded heart has been repaired and it hasn’t your relationship will continue to struggle.
- If the lying or deceptive behavior can be linked to a group of friends or a person, don’t contact or associate with your lover’s/drug using/drinking/gambling circle of friends or relatives.
- Make your cell phone, bank statements, credit card statements and email accounts available to each other. Trust is more than words it’s actions.
- Do not keep private accounts or secrets; share these no matter how much you are concerned about your partner’s response. Trust that you will be treated with respect.
Please keep in mind that it will take both of you to overcome lying or mistrust issues. The lying one must behave in such a way to earn the right to be trusted again. Once the behavior has changed, the one who has been lied to must begin to trust again.
Lying unfortunately is a part of life and relationships. Hopefully with a relationship that is improving instead of deteriorating, you can and should overcome trust issues. If you need additional insight into overcoming broken trust, please see here; Dealing With Broken Trust