It doesn’t matter what area of your life you are examining, if you have ever been in trouble you can probably pin point some warning signs before the storm hit. With a loss of a job it’s pretty clear warning signs. When your workload and responsibilities start to diminish and your boss starts avoiding you, be mindful that your days might be numbered.
The same goes with your health. Very rarely does a person’s health just fail. There are instances where something catastrophic happens, like a blood clot occurs. However, even in that situation very often there are some pains or discomfort which are ignored. Many of us are guilty of putting off going to the Doctor unless it’s extremely necessary. If not required by an employer to save on medical premiums many of us would not make that annual visit to the Doctor.
So what about your marriage? Are you paying attention to the warning signs in your marriage? Would it help in your marriage if you examined your relationship a little closer instead of pretending that all is good?
Here are 3 signs to be mindful of in your marriage;
1. You stop listening to each other.
2. Your happiness increases when you are apart from your spouse.
3. Your intimacy is a chore and not a pleasure.
Tuning out your spouse or each other is a clear sign that you are growing apart. If you have no interest in hearing how your spouse’s day was or what he or she is going through, you have lost a connection. It’s easy to brush off your spouse because you know what is going to be said before it comes out of the mouth. Just remember, if you aren’t listening to each other, someone else could come along and fill that missing void of communication.
Truly you know you are heading into trouble if a smile comes on your face as your spouse leaves your presence. If you feel a sense of relief and joy, knowing you have about 10 hours of freedom until you meet again, it’s a problem. It’s ok to need your space but it’s not ok if you need more and more space.
There are some reasons why intimacy fizzles out. The spark may never be as bright and hot as it was when you first met. However, let it be known that the intimacy will die if it’s not activated from time to time. It’s kind of like smoking or eating chocolate. If you smoke a lot or constantly eat chocolate it’s hard to do without it. If you stop for a while your body figures out that you really don’t need it. The same goes with intimacy.
You may or may not be seeing some of the signs mentioned above in your marriage. The key to a healthy and happy marriage is recognizing the warning signs and making minor repairs instead of a major overhaul.
If you are struggling in your relationship don’t give up hope. You need to believe that your marriage will be turned around and there is no time better than the present to start healing your relationship. All marriages go through seasons. You might be experiencing winter now but spring is right around the corner. Start planting the seeds now for new joy, peace and togetherness in your marriage.
Don’t ignore the signs of trouble. Embrace them and use them as a guide to show you the things you need to repair now so you don’t have to suffer with down the road.