Marriage struggles can be a pain in the, you know what sometimes. For someone who has to deal with difficult people during the day just to get home and wrestle with marriage issues, it makes life tough. Do you feel like you are in a battle for your marriage? You are not alone so don’t think you are. Many couples struggle in dealing with their marriage issues. Don’t give up on your marriage. I have been at it 35 years and still haven’t mastered it. Still learning how to get things right. Give thought to these marriage struggles and tips.
Bad or Non-existent Communication
Communication is probably the most important aspect of any marriage. It’s also one of the most difficult and challenging aspects because of assumptions. All it takes is for one spouse to interpret words or actions the wrong way and small marriage issues can blow up and become marriage breakers.
I can tell you with absolute certainty that you or your spouse have probably been wrong once or twice when it comes to understanding what was being communicated. For example, have you ever been mad at your spouse because of something you thought he or she said or didn’t say? It goes something like this, “I thought you didn’t care anymore because you never tell me that you love me “.
Although you never said you no longer love your spouse, because you don’t say it, it’s perceived that you no longer love. You might be baffled by the accusation that you no longer love, but you shouldn’t be.
I recommend that you communicate what you feelings are and show them by your actions. Let your love for your spouse be evident in your actions and deeds.
Marriage struggles have a way of putting intimacy on the back burner. Sure the flame is still on but the fire burns dimly. If you want to keep your marriage strong and vibrant, work on being intimate, even if you have to plan it out. If you don’t plan on being intimate you will fail at it. You spend time planning your day, week or month so why not include intimacy in your plan.
Ask yourself two simple questions at least once a week, maybe on a Sunday evening;
- What did I do last week to help keep intimacy in my marriage?
- What can I do this week to help keep intimacy in my marriage?
If you don’t think about being intimate guess what? You won’t be. Don’t let life get in the way of your marriage. Life will go on with or without you but your marriage wont.
Too Much or Too Little Work
This is a little vague but on purpose. Do you work at your job harder than you work at your marriage? Do you spend enough time working and thus keep money issues out of your marriage? Is it possible that you spend too much time trying to make your spouse happy that you are making yourself miserable?
If I can sum things up you need to make sure you have balance in your life. Work, family and leisure time balance. Too much time and energy spent on one area of your life might cause issues in other due to neglect. When you have balance you will have marital bliss.
I hope these tips are helpful to you and your spouse. Don’t neglect your partner and your marriage will not just survive but thrive.
Best wishes to you and yours!