I know it’s hard to believe that you can figure out how to thrive in a difficult marriage. Keeping a positive outlook can only take you so far, right? Words sometimes have very little meaning when reality paints a different picture. What are your options when struggling in your marriage?
Option 1 – Put Up With The Difficult Marriage
Sure, it is possible to survive a difficult marriage. Living in a difficult marital relationship causes quite a bit of stress on the mind and the body. However, there are millions of couples putting up with the uncaring, inconsiderate and often times selfish behavior of a spouse. Could it be that you are that spouse?
I’m positive you often think does it make sense to put up with it when you are miserable 5 or 6 days a week? You have to ask yourself some tough questions, such as;
- Why is our relationship so difficult?
- What can I change to make things better?
- How much longer will I be able to stick it out?
- What happens if I we decide to end the marriage?
- What will happen if I make demands for changing the relationship?
Putting up with a difficult marriage for a period of time is not too bad. However, if issues will always be in the center of the relationship, it’s going to be hard to survive. You or your spouse will grow weary and choose to end the marriage. You have to find a way to improve your marriage before it’s too late.
Option 2 – Change Your Difficult Marriage
Contrary to popular belief it is possible to turn a bad or difficult marriage around. I don’t know any married couples who have or ever had a perfect marriage. Most start off great, at least they think it’s great and slowly but surely begin to see their differences get revealed. Before you know it you aren’t quite sure who you married.
There is an adjustment period after the honeymoon and about 2 years into the marriage. Personal preferences begin to rise up and before you know it things get a bit difficult.
The good news is that it’s never too late to change your marriage. I know couples who were in the Lawyers office and found a way to reconcile their broken marriage. You have the wisdom and wherewithal to change your marriage and your future. The question is, do you really want to?
Option 3 – End Your Difficult Marriage
I really won’t spend much time on this option as I believe it should only be done if all other options have failed, more than once.
Divorce is an ugly beast that you want to avoid, if possible. Don’t give into the temptation of taking what seems to be the easy way out of your difficult marriage. Divorce is hard and unpleasant most of the time. Something seems to happen to folks when the reality of breaking up sets in. Think twice before going down the divorce road.
How To Thrive In A Difficult Marriage
Pick Your Issues Carefully – Don’t let anything and everything your spouse does get under your skin. Deal with the issues that matter and let the non-issues go.
Show Your Spouse Respect – It’s easy to become disrespectful in a marriage when you no longer care or feel loved. Do the right thing even if it doesn’t feel right.
Find Ways To Enjoy Life – Take advantage of the opportunities you have to enjoy life and don’t live in a bad marriage bubble. A bad marriage bubble is when you stop living life due to shame, frustration and embarrassment. In other words, don’t avoid family, friends or social events just because you and your spouse are having marital issues. Don’t let your marriage suck the joy out of your life.
Learning how to thrive in a difficult marriage is easy if you have the right perspective. Sometimes it just takes a little reminder to get folks to realize that life doesn’t end just because of a struggling marriage. Make some changes and get your marriage back on track.