So today it was disclosed that the Ashley Madison database has been hacked and millions of clients are at risk of being exposed. I can assure you that there are some very nervous people who will have trouble sleeping tonight.
I can’t imagine the anxiety cheating spouses must be feeling wondering what the hacking folks will do with the information. When will it be disclosed and how will the data be accessed. Will my spouse or family read my name, some must be thinking.
It’s a shame that those worries exist but the truth of the matter is Ashley Madison claims millions use their site to have discrete affairs. Fortunately or unfortunately the secret just might be exposed.
A lot will come of this hacking scandal at Ashley Madison.
- Some partners will find out about infidelity for the first time.
- There will be a lot of hurt, pain and shame if the list goes public.
- Less people may be willing to use the service to have an affair.
- Some marriages will be saved and others will be lost.
- Couples engaged or thinking about getting married may split.
I confess that my name will not be found on the database unless someone with my name used the service. I also don’t have any concerns that my wife’s name will show up. Can you say the same?
Cheating is not something that was discovered by Ashley Madison. However, allowing folks to cheat anonymously is a little new age. To get folks to trust that an orchestrated affair will remain private is remarkable. How anyone can be that trusting is amazing. Yet, millions do trust.
Infidelity is the same as it was since the beginning of time. A promise is made and is broken based on love and lust. Love makes you promise to be faithful and lust lures you into breaking that promise.
If you are worried about infidelity then something is awry in your relationship. Having an affair is not something folks plan on doing when they first meet and fall in-love. Somehow the temptation to cheat becomes more powerful than the marital bond.
The key to not worrying about the Ashley Madison site is to build a strong marriage with safe guards and boundaries so there is strength to resist the affair. The temptation will be there all the time. It takes a strong relationship for folks to resist the urge to cheat.
If you or your spouse show up on the Ashley Madison list or if you are concerned about infidelity, please read this; Help With Infidelity